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My straight guy friend is supposedly straight? Heres? So I went to middle school with this guy with the alias name of G, and we first met in 7th grade, and we kinda got to know each other and at the end of the year we had an end of the year camping trip with the whole seventh grade class. I asked him if i could join his tent and he said yes i could. So when it finally comes to the end of the night, we get ready to sleep (their are like 4 other guys in the tent too). So all of us in the tent have decided that we didnt want to use our pillows so we used G to lay down on. Coincidentally (since its so dark) i happen to lay down on his private area. A few minutes later that night I feels G's hand on my face and he starts thrusting my head with his hand against his genitals ( all while clothes are on). After the trip hes acts a little different and he begins to be kind of mean to me. Now this was all in seventh grade, and i have came across him 6 months ago now that we are both 18 years old. I found him on facebook, and we have exchanged numbers and so forth. Since than we have become really good friends, at first i thought he was straight until i though otherwise. Since the exchanging of number on facebook, we actually had no clue about eachother. Sooner than later i got him a job where i worked at. And we began to work with eachother alot. I would always get the feeling he liked me, we would always be close together, working close our bodies touching. And we would always catch eacother looking at eachother. We would always laugh together. He was the one that always initiated text. And it was very odd because he would sent me them late at night at 11 or even 12 in the morning asking "what up" or " wake up" idk if any straight guy would do that. And i even told him i was gay the first thing we started to talking and he said hes really cool with it and doesnt care. As time went on I grew feeling for him, he isnt the most attractive guy, and my friends say it. But i didnt care at the time because i knew that we clicked. And after gaining feelings for him i couldnt take it and told him i liked him. He took it lightly as he pretended to be straight and said he doesnt care and he wants to be best friends still. But after telling him he has treated me different. He doesnt even text me or wants to hang out, and treats me like garbage. He plays mind games with me, and he used to never flake when we hung out before i told him i liked him, but now he does. And when i get mad about it, he says i overeact. I loved him at the time but not that chapter is over...i just want to know are my suspensions seems false or are they valid enough to question his sexuality, my philosophy as a gay male, I dont chase after hetero guys, I just would like to feel better if he was gay, and i did fall for a gay person to say the least........ | | Yeah. I know. Those people who you're pretty damn sure are at least bi, but they just can't get over their own stuff. And yeah, he does sound like he's at least a little interested, the tent thing is the real clincher, I think. But he also sounds like he's being a huge jerk about trying to look like he's not gay. Now he wouldn't be an asshole about it if he was really that cool with it and not at all defensive, so that makes it seem more like he's gay-- but he's also being an asshole. Which blows. And he's not that hot, you say? I dunno. Like I feel like most of the appeal here is the history you have with him, and this catharsis of getting him to finally come out. Don't feel bad for liking that, everybody finds that really appealing. I have been down that road. But yeah, you probably already know that you gotta let this one go. It's just not fair to you. Maybe eventually he'll work out his stuff, but don't wait on him. He needs to learn this lesson on his own. | How does a person stop others from trying to live their lives through them? I have had a problem with this all my life. I have worked so very very hard to have a career, to have my own life, to be autonomous, to have boundaries and privacy.
I try to share enough so that I am not misunderstood but to retain my rights to be myself. I like my privacy.In spite of appearances, I do. I was not an unhappy guy, did not feel sorry for myself as a guy or teenager. I married because Iwanted to, I loved the guy. We went our separate ways. I wanted to remarry.
Someone went to great lengths to stop it. It seems to me 1. People really are cruel, and heartless. That is a fact, many are, and it is a dog eat dog world if you
are a dog. I am not. 2. People assume they know what is best for you, what you need, and take control
with your fighting tooth and nail. Tell you what you should want, should do. Assertiveness training does no good in the face of these dictators or psychos. Hard to tell the difference, if there is a difference. It is not that I am dumb.That was never the problem.
It is not that I am not a capable person, and cannot stand up for myself. Usually, it is because someone sees a chance to make a fast buck.It is because
people have done things and don't want me around others because they are afraid I will talk about them.
I have better things to do with my life. If I do what I want only my guyren and I benefit. legal assistance is not, and never was available even when I obviously had
cause for lawsuits. It is not due to my crashing, being alcoholic, or mentally ill or incompetent. It is not due
to my being unable to manage my life. It is not due to any of that. I had many
years left where I could have done what I wished, and
it was taken over, ripped off. I killed no one. Am not a criminal of any sort. I am not a dictator. Not domineering, I am hetero, normal female. Look worse than I ever looked, but did not until recent years.Now, I am
older. I think most people on this site are young. Listen up and learn. Pick your battles very carefully.
Now, it is hurry up and die. Get on down the road.
It is people. claiming to be Christians. I am not even able to go to church. I have been harassed and propositioned in church. Here, life is for the young only and they do not seem to be very moral while pretending to be ultra moral.I have no where to go. I have no familyh I am close to but my guyren. I would rather be dead than have to return to where I came, or live with relatives or be controlled by them. They have their lives, I have mine. My living is no threat to them, but it seems like it is a threat to someone. I am a Christian. They have smeared and slandered me, accused me of being a guy for wanting to have a career. Called me gay, or bi. I am not. Called me worse. I could write
a book on sexual harassment. I have been subjected
to filth on the job you would not believe, and do not
tell me that is normal. I have been hired for the purpose of trying to get lawsuits and they sabotaged my work. Still I have no rights as an employee. Have barred me from working in a hospital, where I needed to work, because of their inferences, and because THEY KNOW what I need. They know what is best for me. They know all, are all knowing, all wise, omnipotent. It is Christian women and male
batterer enablers. My husband never hit me. . I do not hate men at all. I would love to be in love and marry. I am celibate and intend to stay so until marriage, which is out because I will not marry until I have freedom of choiceTHEY SEEM TO THINK on the one hand if
I married I would forget this nonsense about working,
on the other hand they do everything they can to prevent it. I am not a prostitute, and never was, not
an illegal drug user. Please no smart alec answers.
If you can think of some useful bit of info, please
tell me. Forget mental health. For me, it is a lost cause
all I saw were trash and creeps who exploited me more to protect their employers and I ended up out in the street, homeless without a career. My guys lost out too.
It is not that we are "dumb."I really am unable to work now. I have serious health problems, and I have no health insurance. I have very little income. If I tryto work my health is going to deteriorate.
Young people, what do older people do on the job
that makes you want to knock them off? I was never
the enemy. I am in such a mess, that all I can reallyh
do is die. I can't work due to my health. If I could work,
I would be fired right away due to creditors. I ws
lured, enticed up here on promise of work, then all my cash and credit was used to live while I desperately tried to get work in my career, then anything. There is no possibility, was no possibility of returning. Never.
My credit was ruined. No possibility of furthering my education, which was my main hope here. I required a hospital job to do that. I came here, and it was like
I ceased to be a human being a person. I had honors in college, rece | Your desire to make sense of your suffering reminds me of the weeds that spring up through cracked asphalt, improbable, doomed, beautiful in their own way.
May grace find you. | Tell me about bankruptcy laws? What changed with the changes? I You will need to read all this to see what was done to me. I am female. Christian, fundamentalist. a
ppear very white. Hetero. It is relative. I have it, but it is relative to my problems. I have health problems,
but was able to work. I have always had to work
at being healthy. Have to keep my weight down.
I am talking of me. I do not want to be told how others are, I am me. I need money for diet, health care.
I have no no health care. I am not going to proof read
or edit this.
I am sick to death of someone dragging up lies
on me and slandering me with things which were
grossly distorted, exaggerated, calling me things which are lies, and harassing and degrading me over things which never happened in the first place. I have
been battered four times by strangers due to people
lying on me.
Going to the state for help, ends up in my being
trashed. Always.I have suffered grave injuries at the hands of states discrimination and abuse.
I must take medication at times due to the abuse of authorities and discrimination. I have no mental illness that is inborn. I have symp;toms of ptst, due to abuse not by my parents.
never filed bankruptcy before, never contemplated it ever seriously. Know nothing, knew nothing.
I really did save 10,000 cash when I was younger,
no dependents, and pay down on my auto and house, bought new furniture. Had hardly any bills and perfect credit. I then made some more bills, manageable because I had a good paying job. After spending a lot of my savings on the dps and finding I was ripped off, I obtained more credit No problem. I am making good money in a career highly employable. Always have a job. I did then get some cash a couple of times from a creditor. I am working full time. I asked creditors to STOP sending me blank checks, and offers for more credit , I asked this more than once. I run into serious
job discrimination. Harassment, slander. I left my long term employer after her asking me to sign lies, saying I did things I did not do. Rec. a major attitude adjustment. Then I lose my three wks vac, all raises,
my two weeks sick leave. Cannot get work any where locally. I went to the city to work, told I had the job, told I was doing great, old emp. appears, they even give me a ticket, singled out. My auto crashed into, have to
rent an auto. Harassed greatly because I go get my grandson, and we have some fun together while I am off. I used credit. I am getting a great new job which
pays twice as much as the old.Go work there, in a rented car. Do great. Great. Then I am told because I do not want to work with someone, I can not transfer to another dept. I can go work in their ltc. I refuse. Take another job. Blah. I ended up deciding to move out of state, sell my home. They ran my ad in paper so that nothing sold. Had to give most of my things away, even furn. I bought new. Paid cash for my furniture, not
credit cards. My dps were cash, not credit cards.
I have been living on credit. Barely made anything on my home. I called here, talked to nurses on the floor
and they said come on. No problem. More than one.
I have disposed of my pets, all but what I could mail,
and bring in the car. Happy to relocate be near my only dtr. Happy to get the rest of my degree, workin a hospital. Get here. I am losing wt. Gained some due
to stress. Have quit smoking. Have problem sleeping off and on. I am happy. Going to gym, looking for church, actually started going to one Different denomination. Cannot go to the old one. Had my name removed from their church. Want a change.
On unemployment. Kept my bills pd up for four months.
Cannot get work any where. I took a review online
before moving here, although it was not required. I took CEUs. I went to seminars. I studied. I was up todate any way. The job I had before was not assisted living. We handled about 30 pts one nurse, doing dressings, IVs, pics, etc., I did that for years, emergencies. The whole bit but for gunshot wounds, or fresh car wrecks. I cannot get work in nursing any where. Nothing, not in clinics nothing. Even worse,
I cannot get any other kind of work. I take ACLS
Pals, at great expense. I take testing for college hours
My brain is working. The ACLS , Pals was like a good
BLS except I got to do the airway thingie, put one in.
We covered more meds. Open book. I did not use
my book for all that. This was expensive, credit.
I had to buy some tires. blah blah. Stringing me along, just around the corner, job. Good pay. No work.
Finally, my money is gone. Credit gone. Creditors
know. they know I am not working. Do not terminate
my credit. I cannot get work. I cannot pay my bills.
I went to consumer credit.
Said a lost cause. My health starts slipping. I did not start smoking. I cannot carry weight. It kills me, and I do not get crabby when I eat right. I began going to gym here. Paid a membership. Harassed at the gym, told to get lost more or less. I was not | You have given a lot of information and it is a little difficult to tell exactly what your question is, but I will try.
When the bankruptcy law changed in 2005 some new requirements were introduced, most of which sound like they do not apply to your situation.
Probably the one that most people have heard about is the "Means Test." Although it is FAR more complicated than this in all its details, basically what it requires is that IF your income is higher than the average income for your household size in your state, then your attorney must perform some additional computations to determine whether you are making enough money to be required to repay at least some of what you owe over the next 5 years. If you are unable to work, this would not apply.
I'm sorry that you and the attorney you consulted came to a misunderstanding. That is truly unfortunate. I would urge you to make an appointment with a different bankruptcy attorney (most offer one free or very low cost appointment) to review your financial circumstances and advise you on whether bankruptcy is an option for you, and whether there are other possible options you might want to consider.
Consider your meeting with the new attorney to be an interview. You are interviewing the attorney to see whether you feel you will be able to work well with him or her. If the first attorney you consult does not seem to you like a person you can work with comfortably and trust to represent your interests, then interview a 2nd and a 3rd attorney. Keep trying until you find one you feel good about. | My partner moved out after 21 yrs? My partner moved out , we've been together 21 yrs and it was probably the best thing for us but I did not want her to move out. I made the most money and she had crappy jobs and not consistent. So since she moved out we've been so called dating each other to see if we can make this work, after all we've been together a long time. We have been getting couples therapy since she moved out and it didnt work.
I was seeing her 4 days a week but we still have separate households. She asked me the other day who is the beneficiary of my 401k and i told her none of her business, I have two adult guyren from a straight marriage decades ago and as soon as she moved out I put their names on as beneficiaries.
She went nuts on me and said I was with you for 21 yrs, blah blah blah and that she should be the beneficiary. I told her I hope to spend it all before I die and whoever is with me can enjoy it with me. Am I nuts or is this just all about the money and not getting back together for the right reasons.
This is the one true time I am glad there is no gay marriage where I live. I am feeling a little guilty though not putting her down as the beneficiary but yet I want to protect myself from wrong reasons also. What do you think. If we were hetero married or gay married in a legal state I could see handing half of it over to her, she knows the laws so hasn't asked me for half of it while I'm alive, what do you think? | I think it sucks that you're concentrating on money of all things.
For 21 years she had financial stability with you, you guys aren't young and she's facing the possibility of having to start again on what sound like relatively little, its understandable that she might freak out. It doesn't mean its all she cares about.
If I was in your position I'd be compelled to protect her financially regardless of whether you got back together or not, at one time the money was viewed as yours jointly - it would feel dishonest to change position. Perhaps you should explore this idea with her, I'm not saying actually do it, you know her I don't, but see if anything changes if you verbalise it like that, if she feels she could be supported either way and she's still working with you to try and repair the relationship you know her hearts in the right place. | Tell me about bankruptcy laws? What changed with the changes? I You will need to read all this to see what was done to me. I am female. Christian, fundamentalist. a
ppear very white. Hetero. It is relative. I have it, but it is relative to my problems. I have health problems,
but was able to work. I have always had to work
at being healthy. Have to keep my weight down.
I am talking of me. I do not want to be told how others are, I am me. I need money for diet, health care.
I have none.
Going to the state for help, ends up in my being
trashed. Always.I have suffered grave injuries at the hands of states discrimination and abuse.
I must take medication at times due to the abuse of authorities and discrimination. I have no mental illness that is inborn. I have symp;toms of ptst, due to abuse not by my parents.
never filed bankruptcy before, never contemplated it ever seriously. Know nothing, knew nothing.
I really did save 10,000 cash when I was younger,
no dependents, and pay down on my auto and house, bought new furniture. Had hardly any bills and perfect credit. I then made some more bills, manageable because I had a good paying job. After spending a lot of my savings on the dps and finding I was ripped off, I obtained more credit No problem. I am making good money in a career highly employable. Always have a job. I did then get some cash a couple of times from a creditor. I am working full time. I asked creditors to STOP sending me blank checks, and offers for more credit , I asked this more than once. I run into serious
job discrimination. Harassment, slander. I left my long term employer after her asking me to sign lies, saying I did things I did not do. Rec. a major attitude adjustment. Then I lose my three wks vac, all raises,
my two weeks sick leave. Cannot get work any where locally. I went to the city to work, told I had the job, told I was doing great, old emp. appears, they even give me a ticket, singled out. My auto crashed into, have to
rent an auto. Harassed greatly because I go get my grandson, and we have some fun together while I am off. I used credit. I am getting a great new job which
pays twice as much as the old.Go work there, in a rented car. Do great. Great. Then I am told because I do not want to work with someone, I can not transfer to another dept. I can go work in their ltc. I refuse. Take another job. Blah. I ended up deciding to move out of state, sell my home. They ran my ad in paper so that nothing sold. Had to give most of my things away, even furn. I bought new. Paid cash for my furniture, not
credit cards. My dps were cash, not credit cards.
I have been living on credit. Barely made anything on my home. I called here, talked to nurses on the floor
and they said come on. No problem. More than one.
I have disposed of my pets, all but what I could mail,
and bring in the car. Happy to relocate be near my only dtr. Happy to get the rest of my degree, workin a hospital. Get here. I am losing wt. Gained some due
to stress. Have quit smoking. Have problem sleeping off and on. I am happy. Going to gym, looking for church, actually started going to one Different denomination. Cannot go to the old one. Had my name removed from their church. Want a change.
On unemployment. Kept my bills pd up for four months.
Cannot get work any where. I took a review online
before moving here, although it was not required. I took CEUs. I went to seminars. I studied. I was up todate any way. The job I had before was not assisted living. We handled about 30 pts one nurse, doing dressings, IVs, pics, etc., I did that for years, emergencies. The whole bit but for gunshot wounds, or fresh car wrecks. I cannot get work in nursing any where. Nothing, not in clinics nothing. Even worse,
I cannot get any other kind of work. I take ACLS
Pals, at great expense. I take testing for college hours
My brain is working. The ACLS , Pals was like a good
BLS except I got to do the airway thingie, put one in.
We covered more meds. Open book. I did not use
my book for all that. This was expensive, credit.
I had to buy some tires. blah blah. Stringing me along, just around the corner, job. Good pay. No work.
Finally, my money is gone. Credit gone. Creditors
know. they know I am not working. Do not terminate
my credit. I cannot get work. I cannot pay my bills.
I went to consumer credit.
Said a lost cause. My health starts slipping. I did not start smoking. I cannot carry weight. It kills me, and I do not get crabby when I eat right. I began going to gym here. Paid a membership. Harassed at the gym, told to get lost more or less. I was not hurting myself.
I look about 15 yrs younger without this wt. I function very well. Devastated. I have given up my home,
spent all that money, now my health is slipping.
Told I do not have HIV. Then to show I am serious about working, I take the only two jobs I am offered.
Nothing like nursing in any way. Hurt me really bad, as if designed to inflict pain, injury. Have to qu | | huh |
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